Not all sex workers want to serve people with disabilities and people with special needs. However, this does not apply to Lisette, a professional sex worker from Breda.

At age 20, Lisette decided to become a commercial sex worker, or escort, at Relax sex agency.

For five years, she lived life as ‘a butterfly of the night’ until she had a hernia so severe that she needed a discectomy on her spine. She had to undergo bed rest for three months. This period was a turning point for her. Lisette then began studying psychology, expanding her knowledge of intimacy in forming relationships.

Lisette’s interest in psychology was well-founded. According to her, she meets many clients who are not confident in their physical appearance and feel insecure when they have sex. Her high-paying clients were never truly content emotionally. Lisette began to apply what she had learned to her work, encouraging equality in the pursuit of pleasure. Lisette embarked on a new career as an independent escort. She eventually decided to set up her own sex agency and manage six sex workers.

The woman, whose full name is Lisette Mepschen, began to change her perspective. As a sex worker, she feels the need to satisfy her clients physically and emotionally, not providing merely fleeting pleasure but an experience that intertwines the physical and emotional. She puts her psychological knowledge into practice and builds relationships based on honesty and intimacy. “Since then, I’ve referred to myself as a pleasure activist and intimacy coach,” says Lisette.

For the past 12 years, Lisette has committed her life to sex work. In fact, she has spent the previous eight years serving clients with disabilities and people with special needs who are often unable to discuss sexual concerns.

Lisette, who’s also a movie enthusiast, lives in a small town in the southern Netherlands with her boyfriend Pietro, a native Italian from Trieste, and Lola, a seven-month-old puppy.

Lisette

Featuring: Hendra Eka

Curated by: Kadir van Lohuizen

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